Safety
Screening, red flags and leaving safe every night.
When you refuse a customer, make the refusal the club's: cameras, house rules, security. A man rejected by a building argues less than one rejected by you.
Dance so he cannot reach: hands free, weight on your own feet, mirror in view, back turned only briefly and only to men who have earned it.
Keep a wall between work and life: a stage name that leads nowhere, a work number, socials under a third name, and no location leaks in conversation.
Set a code with the bartender for alcohol-free drinks, never drink anything that did not come straight from the bar to your hand, and pair with a sober friend.
Skip the man who cannot stand, the one whose hands moved before you started, the loud group performer and anyone asking where you live. They rarely pay.
Never leave alone. Security walks you to a parking loted close and lit, or to a taxi you booked and confirmed, and work ends only when your own door is locked.
Collect before every dance and room, no IOUs even from regulars. If he still will not pay, go straight to the bouncer. If he hurt you, that is assault.
Never work a private party alone: bring your own security, get paid in full before you start, control the location and the exit, and walk if anything changes.
Say the rules before the first song, every time: where his hands go and what happens if they move. Warn twice, then walk and tell security.
Warn the dancers around you the same night, keep written notes to what happened and when, share only with people you trust, and know what Washington requires.
Stalking begins as gifts, flowers and knowing your schedule. Log every incident with dates, tell security and colleagues early, change routes, never confront.